You’ll see Medusa Magazine quotes pop up on Twitter from time to time, usually when people have determined its serious, whipping people who didn’t read it into a frenzy. You can imagine how this one went down:
The genius of the website is that you have to read any piece twice to be sure it’s not satire…. 90% of the language in it has been said seriously by people. It’s genius – much smarter than The Onion.
The best piece they’ve ever written, and quite possibly the best blog in blogging history though, is “My EX was Secretly ALT-RIGHT“. To get the full flavour and flow, go and have a read of the full thing, but here’s some highlights.
I guess I was always somewhat woke, because he and I were never exclusive, I found monogamy oppressive, especially with a white guy.
I had always considered myself a feminist, but starting Brown opened my eyes to how things really were. I was learning so much, and I was eager to share my knowledge with him. I spoke of rape culture, the patriarchy, and the oppression I faced as a biracial women. I educated him about his white privilege and how to be a proper ally. He stayed quiet at first, which I thought was good. I thought it just meant he was listening to me.
K and I enjoyed including other women in bed with us, especially one I started Brown, because I met so many open-minded and sex positive feminists.
Sometimes we would all talk to him about his role in dismantling the patriarchy from within since he was a white male. He’d still stay quiet and I still thought he was taking the time to fathom our message. Listening without interrupting is an important part of being a white ally.
Due to his fragile masculinity, K would never let other men be involved in our sexual exploration.
[K’s roommate] said that I shouldn’t call him again, and just before he hung up be said, “Y’all damn feminists are crazy.” I was shocked that an associate of my boyfriend would use this type of language. I called him back and when he didn’t answer, left a message on his answering machine about how his use of the word ‘crazy’ was ablest and that he clearly didn’t understand what feminism meant.
I called K right away to inform him of his friend’s bigoted views. To my shock, he was well aware and defended James, saying that he wasn’t really a bigot and even admitted that he agreed with James on a lot of issues. I was shaking.
We met the following day to discuss this more in-depth. I had told him to come to my apartment, but he wanted to meet somewhere public. There in a crowded restaurant, he told me that he disagreed almost all of my views, but that he still liked me as a person and just didn’t want to upset me. I wanted to scream and rip my hair out. I wanted to throw the glass water he was smugly drinking right in his face, but I held my cool. I was filled anger and betrayal, I could hardly see straight.
He tried telling me that it was ‘okay’ that we have different beliefs, that we could still coexist. I told him that this wasn’t a matter of opinion, it was fact. That by not supporting my resistance of the patriarchy and white supremacy, that he was enabling the system. AND HE JUST LAUGHED.
I asked what exactly he disagreed with. He thought for a moment and said the wage gap was a myth, the west wasn’t a rape culture and that feminists should stand against real rape cultures that exist in the middle east. Racist much?? He said that the patriarchy was to feminists what the illuminati was to conspiracy theorists. He even went on to say that hardcore liberalism was toxic to western civilization! He then denied his white privilege and used the classic ‘anyone can succeed in The US with hard work” line. “Oh and there are only two genders” was the cherry on top.
It hit me then that he was a rapist. He had slept with me and about six of my feminist friends as an undercover ally, had we known of his bigoted and ignorant views, we never would have shared our bodies with him. I told him this but just laughed again and said he had never vocalized or otherwise indicated agreement with any of my ‘social justice nonsense’ and that sexual encounters were based solely on physical attraction, not political orientation.
Many right winged individuals are somewhat mentally ill and think everything is part of an agenda to destroy their precious western civilization. The truth is, that is our goal but it’s not a bad thing!
His mother was in jail and him being a misogynist stems from his issues with his mother. Everyone likes to joke about a girl with daddy issues but guys with mommy issues are even worse. Most people who are anti-feminism probably just have unresolved childhood issues. He was a sociopath and a narcissist. He rarely expressed emotions because he didn’t experience any. Many Right Wings are like this. You see, I still thought that I could heal him, I thought I could make him see the light. We went a few days without talking but then I invited him over.
I had invited him over to have a little fun with my friend Rachel and I. When he arrived, he must have noticed that Rachel was a transhuman because he made an excuse and left. Rachel was in tears all night. When I asked what his problem was he said it was because she was ‘male’. I said no, she identifies as a woman so SHE’S A WOMAN but there was absolutely no reasoning with him. He was willing to take advantage of my friends when they met his own selfish beauty standards. After adding trans-phobic to the growing list of reasons not to date him, I finally had the courage to cut all ties with him.
Friends, be careful. Keep your allies at a distance. They need to know when to be quiet and listen at times but also speak up and confirm that they are on your side. White silence is violence.
Magnificent. Bravo, Alisowoke.